Everyone, at some point in their lives, has said, "I just want to belong." But what we end up doing in attempts to belong often brings about the exact opposite experience, bringing shame and feelings of rejection. Brené Brown says that fitting in is the enemy of true belonging. In this episode we explore practices and questions that may lead to a greater sense of true belonging. Come join the conversation.
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"You really know how to suck a person dry." ... "What is wrong with you?" ... "You're not strong enough to handle this." ... "You're just too much." ...
These kinds of shame narratives play in our heads all day long. Sometimes we are conscious of them, sometimes we aren't. But they're playing like music in a café – filling our internal lives with background noise. What if we acknowledged these narratives as real (but not true), in doing so moved toward them (!), and spoke truth to them so they could be transformed?
My dear friend and colleague Phil Monroe joins me for this episode on shame narratives. Phil wrote a recent blog entry that got me thinking about shame narratives and how much air time they tend to get in our lives. Make sure you check out his blog at www.philipmonroe.com.
Also in this episode, I mention a Brené Brown video I posted. Feel free to check it out here: Brené Brown on harm & healing in faith communities. Finally, if you didn't see it already, check out the blog post I wrote on Wednesday that goes along well with this topic: Live a Life Guided by Grace & Love? Huh??
Don't be shy...send me your thoughts, questions, ideas at lifeinthewhirlwind@gmail.com. I love hearing from you!
Has anyone ever said to you, "You are good" ? Did you quickly deny it (either internally or externally)? Did you ponder it? Did you believe the person? Unfortunately we are much quicker to believe that we are inherently bad, yet that's very contrary to the story the Divine Maker has given us.
This episode just skims the surface of the conversation of Original Goodness and True Self, which will surely continue on this podcast. We were made in and from Love, and yet we are told so differently by experiences and people in our lives.
I invite you to enter into this episode receptive to your innate very-goodness, and receive and ponder these truths this week. And remember: you are very, very good.
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